Friday, February 29, 2008

It's Official

Ok, I am now officially addicted to the hot tub. Last Friday after a very long week reviewing the bank's 10 K (annual financial statement and supporting documentation), all I could think of was getting in the hot tub right after work and having a beer while in it. It was total bliss.

Mom and Dad came up to visit last weekend too, and we all had a relaxing dip after dinner was over and before the Tennessee vs. Memphis basketball game came on tv.

I have been in it three times this week already and will make it four after work today. That Yuengling Black and Tan is calling my name again. Or, I may have another Gin and Tonic like I did last night - it hit the spot!

Thursday, February 28, 2008

True Love

For some reason this week, I was thinking about a post from my friend Rick a while back - I can't get the link to work, but it was the "Rethinking My Neighbor" from January.



It occured to me that I wanted to comment on it but couldn't quite frame what I wanted to say. However, I know what I was thinking about and have now found the words.

True love, genuine love, can only be shown to others when we love ourselves. We must accept ourselves and love ourselves before we can love others as we must be able to empathize with others. While we may not understand each others feelings fully, the ability to put ourselves in their shoes as it were and empathize enables us to have compassion and caring for others.

So when God commands us to love our neighbors as ourselves, and do unto others, etc., I think this is a part of it. My niece was telling my sister one time a while back who all she loves: her daddy, her mama, Grandmommy, Papa Jimmy, Mafa, and Uncle Jim, she also paused and said that she loved herself too. What a good thing that she knows that!

This is where true love begins.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

DAR and DC






So I am thinking about what to write about and thought I would share some things I learned shortly after my grandmother died. Grandma had kept her mother's Daughters of the American Revolution (DAR) paperwork and also her membership certficate for the Daughters of the Confederacy. This inspired me last year to do some research and learn more about my family and I learned some interesting things. I also have one of Grandma's rings that belonged to my Great-Great-Great Grandfater, Robert Luke Lamkin. He is the one who served at the end of the Civil War for Georgia and I have the documentation that he served - hence the Daughters of the Confederacy eligibility.

There are also two confirmed Patriots (those who served in the American Revolution) in my family and I have found two others that I believe are Patriots but I have not been able to prove those out. Her information is:

The National Society of the Daughters of the American Revolution Volume 67
page 344

Mrs. Ethel Lamkin Davenport.
DAR ID Number: 66947
Born in Columbia County, Ga.
Wife of Joseph B. Davenport, Jr.
Descendant of Nathan Benton and of Samuel Magruder.
Daughter of Julian Berry Lamkin (b. 1849) and Mary T. Benton, his wife.
Granddaughter of Nelson M. Benton and Martha A. Wooding, his 2nd wife.
Gr-granddaughter of Nathan Benton and Susannah Crawford, his wife, m. 1796; John Edward Wooding (d. 1844) and Elizabeth Drane, his wife, m. 1811.
Gr-gr-granddaughter of Walter Drane and Alletha Magruder, his wife.
Gr-gr-gr-granddaughter of Ninian Beall Magruder and Rebecca Young, his wife.
Gr-gr-gr-gr-granddaughter of Samuel Magruder and Margaret Jackson, his wife.
Nathan Benton (1764-1826) was a member of the roth regiment, Continental troops of North Carolina, under Captain Jones. He was born in Orange County, N. C.; died in Columbia County, Ga.
Samuel Magruder (1708-86) was a member of the Committee of Observation. He was born in Prince Georges County; died in Montgomery County, Md.


What I also did last spring is go to North Augusta, SC and see where my Great Grandparents and Great-Great Grandparents are buried (top picture). My Grandmother died at the age of 98 1/2, her mother, Grandma Ethel, died one month shy of her 80th birthday in 1959, and her mother, Mary Talullah Benton Lamkin died in the early 1920's (I'll have to check the date and edit this) and she was in her 70's I believe. Grandma Ethel and her husband, Joseph Benjamin Davenport, Jr. (my Great Grandparents), along with two of my grandma's siblings are buried in a section along with my Great-Great Grandparents, Julian Berry Lamkin and Mary Talullah Benton Lamkin.

That day last April, mom and I also went to my Grandmother's childhood home in North Augusta. The original had burned when my Grandma was about 24 or so, but was rebuilt. The people that bought it a number of years ago converted it to a restaurant called "Davenport's" and mom showed me around Grandma Ethel's house. The front room was where my Grandma got married, and the other front room was Grandma Ethel's bedroom. Just a 2 minute drive from the house is the Savannah river and you cross into Augusta, GA. I finally understood why my Grandma loved Augusta, Georgia, and also wanted to go to the University of Georgia (which Grandma Ethel would not allow). Grandma wanted to go to UGA and become a Nurse, but Grandma Ethel would not permit that as it was not an 'appropriate' profession for a lady. Grandma went to Winthrop instead to become a teacher.

After visiting North Augusta, mom and I drove to Elizabeth Johnston's house just across from the Augusta National Golf Course. This is my Grandma's first cousin, and she had even more information on the Lamkin family than I had managed to pull together. We visited and she showed me all the stuff that she had and it was fascinating. She had a pair of glasses and their case framed and hanging on a wall. The glasses blonged to Aurelia Amanda Berry Lamkin - Robert Luke Lamkin's wife and also my Great-Great-Great Grandmother. Mom and I then drove out to Pollard's Corner (a crossroads in Columbia County outside of Augusta). This is where Robert Luke Lamkin and his parents, James M. Lamkin and Elizabeth Frazier Luke Lamkin, are buried in a family cemetary (bottom picture). These are my Great-Great-Great-Great Grandparents. Elizabeth Lamkin was pardoned by then President Andrew Johnson as she had been arrested and convicted for supporting Confederate soldiers during the war. A copy of the pardon is hanging in Elizabeth Johnson's house too detailing the pardon and signed by Andrew Johnson.

Turns out that the Lamkin family owned a large piece of what is now Columbia County, Georgia and Grandma sold her share in the late 1980's as she had to pay taxes on it and the lumber was susceptible to forest fire and thus devaluation of the property.

Grandma used to ride the train from Augusta to spend time at Grandma and Grandpa Lamkin's in the summer. Grandma talked about this on many occasions as she loved the Lamkins.

I also found some information on the Davenports as my Great-Grandfather's family has been in the country since around the 1600's.

Monday, February 18, 2008

How a $30 oil change can equal $200

So I sent Jim to the dealership today to get the oil changed in his car. He got the tires rotated last week, and was overdue for the oil change. So he calls me after he is done and said it was $213. I said - how could an oil change have cost $213!!?? He said the service man said that it was time for the 45,000 mile service and that included filter changes, belts, fluids, etc.

While I'm sure this will all benefit the car, it could have waited until the 60,000 service when I was planning on this kind of expense. I just don't understand how my husband can get suckered into this kind of thing when I send him for a $30 oil change. Maybe my guyfriends can help me out here. I am very confused as to how this happens. Do I have to supervise his every move? I guess so. Sometimes I think I have a 35 year old child!!!

Weekend visit and Hot Tub is fixed

We had such a fun time at my sister's this weekend. My neice was so excited that we were coming up, and she was upset that she had to go to bed because we got there late Friday night. She wanted us to stay until Monday :(, and I hated to have to go yesterday but we did wait until after she got up from her nap and I played Chutes and Ladders with her and then a game of Memory before we left.

Meg, James, Jim, and I played Scene It three times. That is a really fun game and I didn't realize how much I do know about movies. I won it one time and should have won a second time. But it was a lot of fun no matter who won. Quincy had fun playing Winnie the Pooh game (I got it for Quincy after she played the one I bought off of ebay at my house), and Qunicy also wrote my name about 50 times as she loves to write everyone's name! She also painted with her watercolors (I LOVED those when I was little) and we went to the park on Saturday for about an hour. I went down the slide with her a bunch and played on the see saw too.

When we got home, the hot tub was ready. When we bought our house (it will be 2 years in May), it had a hot tub built into the deck off of our den and has a screened in porch around it. However, the tub was in good shape but the controls were shot and needed to be replaced. It wouldn't heat or do anything but push the water with the jets. So I let Jim talk me into spending $1,700 to get it fixed last week. He got it done on Friday, so when we came home last night, it was hot and we got in for about 30 minutes. I think I'm going to really enjoy it. Now I need some outside shades (like those bamboo shades) that you can roll down for privacy and we need to get the light fixed on the celing fan out there. There is also a tv stand with a cable, but it would need to be lowered to put a tv on it to really see. I agreed with Jim to quit doing the gamecock club and give up the tickets :( as we can spend the $$ on things we'd like to do around the house. He promised me he'd put a TV outside for football season so I can watch and enjoy the hot tub in the fall and winter!!

After riding in the car for 3 hours yesterday afternoon, the spa really hit the spot! I think that money was definitely better than the $1,600 we spent to put the house under termite bond. The next big thing we want to do is to put one of those woodburning stove inserts into our fireplace. Those things are really nice and they don't even need a blower and can heat almost the whole house with a slow wood burn. Of course, that is kind of pricey when you buy it and then have it installed. Probably close to $3,500 to do it but we are thinking it will be a good addition around October when it starts to get cold. No need to try and do it now as we are almost to spring.

Monday, February 11, 2008

Factor V Leiden

I had heard of blood clotting disorders before, but always the lack of clotting as in hemophillia. However, we discovered that there are clotting disorders that make you more apt to develop blood clots in an unfortunate way. In September of 2006, Meg had a swollen leg that was very painful. It did not go away and she kept going back to the doctor and finally they did an ultrasound and discovered a blood clot in her leg. Even though she went on the blood thinner injections, the clot embollized and went to her lung. This is very dangerous as 30% of PEs (pulmonary emobolisms are fatal). She was in the hospital for several days and is now on oral cumiden (blood thinner) for the rest of her life since she had a life threatening condition.

Since she was only 34 at the time, they suspected she might have a genetic clotting disorder and she got tested as did I. Turns out, we both have a genetic condition in the Factor V (there are 8 steps in the clotting process) step that causes the blood to be hypercoagulable. One bad thing is that she was on the pill (as I had been for almost 20 years at that point) and for a normal person, that increases the risk of blood clots by 4 times as much. With just the Factor V Leiden condition, this increases your chances of a blood clot by 7 times. Together, the risk is exponential, as my hematologist told me my risk if I continued to take the pill would be 1 in 300 of having a blood clot. Needless to say, I have not taken the pill in 18 months. I also take a baby aspirin every day as this has the effect of thinning the blood and has long lasting effects on platelet development reducing the likelihood that they will 'stick' together.

Turns out that Daddy has this genetic disorder (it is carried on the X chromosome) and since men only have one X, that is the one that Meg and I got. Daddy also had a blood clot at 51 that was unexplained. Interesting thing about this Factor V Leiden defect is that it was only identified in 1993 or 1994. Fortunately, we only have the one bad copy as Meg and I are both heterozygous (meaning one bad gene) instead of homozygous which would mean two bad copies and even higher risk of blood clots.

The other thing is that given my age and this condition, I will have to take a shot of heparin (blood thinner) each day if I decide to get pregnant - and I HATE shots. Even with the heparin shot, I will have about a 10% risk of developing a blood clot while pregnant. The most typcial problem during pregnancy is that it can cause a miscarriage because of clotting in the umbilical cord. And you can't take cumiden since it causes birth defects and the heparain shot goes into the bloodstream and does not cross the placenta barrier.

So I still don't know what I want to do about a baby and now I have this other thing to go along with it as I would have to take a shot a day over a nine month time frame. Jim is cool with it either way no matter what we decide to do, but I know he does not want to do anything to risk my health. The amazing thing is that Meg had a pretty normal pregnancy as the doctors could not beleive she didn't throw a clot while she was pregnant or shortly thereafter. Not only would that be bad, but once you have a clot, you are predisposed to have more.

If I ever have surgery, I'll have to be on blood thinner for a while afterwards as invasive procedures can cause the body to react with a clot. For more info:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Factor_V_Leiden
http://www.med.uiuc.edu/hematology/PtFacV2.htm

Sunday, February 10, 2008

Nieces are wonderful

My sister emailed me this week to see if we could come up next weekend. She told me that Quincy has heard her talking, and wanted to know if Mafa is coming to see her. She told Meg that "I like Mafa, cause Mafa likes me a whole lot".

That was classic. One time she told Meg that "I like Mafa, she's my friend". I love that child!!!! We have so much fun playing with her Barbie dolls and going to the park. She even likes to play music and dance and sing like I did. My sister never did that. I guess Meg always had me to play with, but before Meg came along or could play with me, I would entertain myself by playing records and dancing and singing in the living room.

Quincy takes after her Aunt Mafa. Her favorite color is blue like mine, and she looked at my Kappa shirt one day and asked me what it was (it had the KKG greek letters on it). I told her that when she grew up she could be one too. So I only have 13 years before Quincy will be a Freshman in college (she starts Kindergarten this fall) and I can take her shopping and buy her all of her rush clothes. My sister and brother in law roll their eyes when I start on that kick, but they know that Aunt Mafa will make sure Quincy is ready for rush - in 13 years of course - as it is never too early to start!

Saturday, February 9, 2008

Friday Night Discovery

So last night we went to one of those Japanese Hibachi places for dinner (Jim is Catholic so no meat on Friday during lent). I am not Catholic, but I don't eat meat on Friday's during Lent around him. After dinner while we're waiting on everything to wrap up, get the check, etc. Jim starts talking to the guy next to us about his time in the military as Jim had mentioned something about it. So Jim also talks about his time that he spent in Kuwait and Iraq during the first gulf go round and the mentality of the people over there, not wanting to go into Baghdad and urban warfare, etc.

Then Jim drops the bomb - he tells the guy about his medical discharge as he had stress fractures in each lower leg and that he was medically discharged about a year earlier than planned (in '99 instead of 2000). Jim then proceeds to tell him that right after 9/11, he had called the recruiter in Columbia as he wanted to go over to Afghanistan. However, since he was medically discharged they would not have taken him back in. This part about wanting to go back in and calling the recruiter was news to me.

When Jim was in the Army the first time, he was an 11 Charlie (Infantry) which is the military's fighting machine which has a 60 second life expectancy during combat. He was a mortarman as his test scores were really high and you had to be able to do the complex math in your head. When he got out in '94 (way before I met him) he went back to Ohio, went to school for a year, worked some, and then ended up re-upping in January of '97 and they sent him to Ft. Jackson and we met in Columbia in February of '97. They would not let him go back in as 11 Charlie, so he was a 71 Lima which is a clerk. He hated being a clerk. And you can take the man out of the Infantry, but you can't take the Infantry out of the man.

So here he is after 9/11, and he called the recruiter and wanted to go back in so he could go blow $H*T up and blow up people in Afghanistan. Of course, he didn't tell me that he was trying to go back in! I knew he was very upset and ready to get on a plane to go stick it to the Taliban and Bin Laden, but I didn't know he's busy calling around to try and get back in until last night!

I knew he was really hard to be around for about a month or so, but I had no clue he actually tried to get back in. I can't really blame him or be too upset, but it was just such a surprise that he had tried. I should have known better. I fussed at him half the way home. He knows I would have been really upset if he had found a way to go, but he would have done it anyway no matter what I said. I guess I can't be too upset though as he is very patriotic and has such a sense of duty and love of country.

He also knows how to kill people with his bare hands as that is what they are trained to do if you don't have a weapon or if it jams. There are things that he did in the military that he won't tell me and says that he is not supposed to even though he has been out and is not going back in. His aunt told me one time that he was in Turkey for a while but that she was not supposed to know that. He won't even confirm or deny that. He won't tell me anything much except that he has been in situations where he's had to defend his life before. I think that means he had to kill someone while in combat in Iraq (close to the border with Kuwait right after it was over), but he won't tell me anything specific. And that is what his aunt thinks happened too.

Anyway, it was just a little upsetting to know he tried to go back in although I should have known better.

Monday, February 4, 2008

Best Super Bowl Ever

Wow - that game was probably the best Super Bowl I've ever seen. I wondered how the rematch would be after seeing the last game of the regular season when the Pats and Giants played. That catch on the last drive of the Giants had me jumping out of my chair when Eli Manning escaped what looked like was going to be a sack and then the receiver catches it with the assistance of his helmet. Incredible!

And that Giant defense had me totally worked up...GRRRRRR. Five sacks on Tom Brady. I LOVE seeing a defense that fired up and getting after the quarterback and the football. Wicked. They opened more whoop ass than I've seen in some time. Just amazing. The NY Giant defense could have been named as the MVP in my opinion.

I am usually dissapointed by Super Bowls when there are two weeks between the championship games and the Super Bowl. The game is usually really good when there is only 1 week between the two, but this year was an exception.

And the halftime show was the best since Sting performed a few years ago. I loved that they opened with American Girl - awesome song!! The only thing I was upset about was that they didn't play Refugee as that is my favorite Tom Petty song.

I usually end up asleep at the end of the Super Bowl since sometimes they end up being boring but not last night - WOW!! Glad I have the end of it DVR'd so I can go back and see that last drive a few more times!

Friday, February 1, 2008

Fun for a Friday or...more useless Star Trek information



Well it's Friday and I'm a little bored at work, so I thought I would see how long it would take me to remember all 79 Star Trek episode titles. In a testament to my true geekdom and Star Trek affection, it only took about 40 minutes for me to write down the names of all 79 original episodes.

Yes, I know I am a sick individual with an amazing and excellent memory. Happy Friday! :)